You’ve shown traits for both the FIGHT and FAWN trauma responses. It’s common for the nervous system to react differently in different situations, yet we usually rely on one primary pattern under stress. After reading through the information below, notice over the coming days or weeks whether you tend to respond with freeze or flight when your nervous system feels overactivated.
When you’re in “fight” mode, your nervous system prepares you to protect yourself by pushing back. This might show up as anger, frustration, defensiveness, or a strong urge to stand your ground. Deep down, it’s your body’s way of saying, “I won’t let anything hurt me.”
Common symptoms you may experience:
Physical:
• Tense muscles or clenched jaw
• Flushed face or racing heart
• Surges of energy or adrenaline
Mental:
• Racing thoughts or fixation on threats
• Feeling the need to control outcomes
• Quick reactions to perceived challenges
Emotional:
• Irritability or emotional intensity
• Sudden bursts of anger or frustration
Behavioral:
• Confrontational or controlling behavior
• Strong boundaries or fear of losing control
There’s nothing wrong with this response.
It’s powerful and protective.
Your body is wired to defend you.
When you understand this energy, it can help you set boundaries.
It can help you fight for your values.
It can help you stay resilient.
The key is learning to channel your strength — without letting it control you.
When you’re in “fawn” mode, your nervous system seeks safety through connection and appeasement. You might over-accommodate others, avoid conflict, or lose yourself trying to keep the peace. Deep down, your body believes harmony = safety.
Common symptoms you may experience:
Physical:
• Tension in the chest or stomach
• Fatigue from overextending yourself
Mental:
• Difficulty knowing what you want
• Overanalyzing others’ moods or reactions
Emotional:
• Anxiety around disapproval or rejection
• Guilt when prioritizing your own needs
Behavioral:
• People-pleasing or over-apologizing
• Avoiding conflict or disagreement
• Neglecting personal boundaries
• Feeling resentful or burnt out
There’s nothing wrong with this response.
Fawning is an intelligent strategy for staying connected when safety felt uncertain.
It’s your body’s way of saying, “Connection keeps me safe.”
When understood, this same energy can become a source of empathy, care, and compassion.
What it truly needs is your awareness.
The space to set boundaries, honor your truth, and connect authentically—without abandoning yourself.
